Your Brain vs. Her Brain
We like to think men and women are the same, right?
After all, gender equality has been a fight since the late 19th century. But, the sales of glossy magazines that promise to teach you how to work with someone of the opposite gender as well as self-help books along the lines of “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” are proof that we need a little help understanding what’s going on inside the heads of men and women.
Mark Gungor said it well in his comedic speech:
“Men’s brains and women’s brains are different! And here’s how: Men’s brains are made up of little boxes, and we have a box for everything. We have a box for the car. We have a box for the money. We have a box for the job, a box for the kids, a box for you, a box for your mother…somewhere in the basement.
And the rule is the boxes do not touch. All right? When a man discusses a particular subject, he goes to the appropriate box, slides it out, opens it up, will discuss only the content of that specific box, and then when he is done, he puts it away hoping not to touch or disturb any of the other boxes.
Now a woman’s brain is made up of a big ball of wire, and everything is connected to everything…It’s like the Internet superhighway, and it’s all driven by energy that we call emotion. It’s one of the reasons that women tend to remember everything because if you take an event and tie it to the emotion, you can remember it forever. The same thing happens to men, but it doesn’t happen very often, because frankly…we don’t care. But women tend to remember EVERYTHING! -Mark Gungor
Ragini Verma made the point that “On average, men connect front to back [parts of the brain] more strongly than women. Whereas women have stronger connections left to right.”
These different connections allow male brains to be optimized for motor skills. And female brains to be optimized for combining analytical and intuitive thinking. Brain imaging studies have shown that women have a higher percentage of gray matter, the computational tissue of the brain. Men have a higher percentage of white matter, the connective cables of the brain.
There are exceptions to everything, but I’m sure if you spend a significant amount of time with the opposite sex, you’ll start to notice differences in how the two of you think. When I drive, I tend to be looking towards the sides of the roads, noticing the bluebird perched on that low hanging branch, or the flowers on that one bush. When I’ve talked to my guy friends about driving, their eyes are (where they should be) further down the road, focused on the yellow sign 300 yards away.
I’m also absolutely horrible at navigation. I’m abnormally bad at directions, but many women get stuck with a bad reputation for reading maps.
According to scientists, it may just be that they orient to landmarks differently. Men were shown to memorize the pathway: “cruise in one direction for five minutes, turn right, drive five or six blocks, go left, then wend his way for about three minutes and turns right. While I would turn right at the Walmart, left at the library, right again at the big oak tree.
Men have what I like to call a one-track mind. They are very good at focusing on one thing and pushing forward towards that one thing. While women (particularly me) tend to be a bit more of a multitasker, running 10 things at once.
Men have a box in their brain that women are not aware of. This particular box has NOTHING in it. It’s true. In fact, we call it the “Nothing” box. And of all the boxes a man has in his brain, the nothing box is his favorite box. If a man has a chance, he’ll go to his nothing box every time.
That’s why a man can do something seemingly wholly brain dead for hours on end. You know, like, fishing. They’ve actually measured this.
The University of Pennsylvania did a study, and men can do absolutely nothing and still breathe. Women can’t do it. Their minds never stop! And they don’t understand the “Nothing” box…and it drives them CRAZY…because NOTHING makes a woman go crazy like watching a man…doing…nothing!”